Tuesday, October 17, 2017
A meditation to find joy again after you lose a loved one...
It's easy to get caught up in the pain of a loss when you are grieving and often times we find ourselves staying there much longer than we anticipate too. Grief happens in stages and depending on your connection to the departed it is always different for each individual. Life in our physical form as we know it is a journey of learning and it is suggested by those who have researched or who are in-tune with the other side that when our soul's mission is completed here on Earth, on the physical plane, we return in spirit to the after life to reflect and decide what we could have done better , how we have affected others growth, heal and contemplate our next soul's lesson. We often over look the celebration that a soul, our loved one, has completed their mission because we are concentrated on the loss and we may not see or understand what that individual accomplished and how it affected the learning of all the souls they were involved with.
I was thinking today of the many losses that I have personally experienced as well as the losses to those with whom I am close with. I have a different belief and outlook however that doesn't make it any easier just more comforting. I have a knowing that I will , after my own life in this incarnation, return to spirit as well . The soul is everlasting and that should not be diminished or forgotten. Your loved ones want you to be happy and carry on with your life missions and lessons . Sometimes this can be a challenge to see when you are grieving and also guilt may be an obstacle to prevent you from wanting to feel joy again. I thought to myself how can I help those suffering with loss and pain of a loved one? I decided to create this meditation so you may begin to heal and reclaim the joy of living that you are meant to have.
Find a quite place where you can relax with no interruptions or electronic devices unless it will help you to put on some type of relaxing music or soundscape. If possible light a candle , depending on where you are , or an incense. Get comfortable, either sitting, or laying down. Start to take relaxing deep breathes until you are able to shut out the noise of your busy life. Now this may be difficult...imagine your loved one in front of you or in your minds eye. Imagine them smiling, at peace, happy and healthy...I say this because they are now absolutely that way in spirit on the other side. Talk with them and tell them that you miss them and see how they are doing. Tell them how happy you are that they accomplished their souls mission in this life and how excited you are to reunite with them in spirit when it is your time. It is OK to tell them how much you miss them , often think of them and share a fond memory personal to you both.
When you get through your " spirit visit " you may now ask them before you say goodbye for this mediation what it is they hope for you in your physical life. I am sure the answer will be for you to feel happy and go on living as you are meant to all the while knowing they can very much still hear and see you although they can not interfere because they know now that they are in spirit how important your individual journey is to your soul's growth and those around you . Allow yourself to concentrate on their peaceful and positive loving energy surrounding you and as you either fall asleep or decide to get up and go about your day... you can now feel a step closer to healing and reclaiming your joy of living.
You feeling happiness again is in no way diminishing your love and devotion to those no longer on the physical plane that we were connected too...in fact it is enhancing it. This is what our loved ones in spirit want for us all no matter what the circumstances surrounding their crossing over. They want you to be able to fulfill your soul's contract and experience what you are meant to in this life.
Try this mediation as often as you like and don't pressure yourself for the outcome. It will be different for everyone. I hope eventually you will get through this mediation and emerge feeling more at peace with your loved one's loss and a sense of happiness because you now have a deeper understanding that the spirit is truly eternal and your loved one is always with you until you reunite on the other side.
XO Billy Charles Connect with me on Twitter @BillyCharlesNY